Detachment, on the other hand, is about how those desires ultimately manifest for you. When you become too attached to when and how your desires show up, you screw up the manifesting process. Instead of holding the vibe of playfulness and abundance, you start sending out signals like concern, worry, and stress. Don’t do that!
Spiritual teacher/author/life coach Iyanla Vanzant sifts through the tragedies, misfortune and abuse she suffered in her early life. Iyanla opens up about how she was able to reinvent herself and claim the life she knew she was destined to live.
You’ve got to put a roadblock on the sled path. Stop telling the OLD story and start telling the NEW story! The NEW story of how you want it to be. The story of what it’s like to be in the most magical, loving relationship with your Soulmate. Starting now. You’re going to start catching yourself when you’re chatting with friends and the OLD story starts to creep out. Notice it. Then shift to the NEW story.
This sort of input can be terrifying at first. It can make you judge yourself for wanting anything else. I get it – I was with a nice man. Everybody knew it, and I knew it. A “Nice” man alone is something that I realized a lot of women didn’t have the luxury of. Finding contentment with what you have is only good if you also open yourself up to the possibility of something more.
What are the things that make you feel loved and light up your day? Is it the little things, like if he or she would write “I love you” on a sticky note and leave it in your lunchbox? Is it the silly, small compliments? Like how you style your hair, or about how the color you’re wearing today looks good on you?
Manifestation’s origins are in religion and spirituality because if something spiritual becomes real, it is said to be a manifestation. The word’s usage has spread to include all aspects of life. “The submarine is a manifestation of da Vinci’s sketches.” “The crowd’s cheering hysteria was the manifestation of years of allegiance to the now victorious soccer league.”
If you’re looking to learn how to manifest love fast, the key message you need to internalize is that you have to start looking for love with real intention. What this means is that you must learn how to align yourself with a vibrational frequency that can attract love rather than further disappointment, and that you need to develop a vivid, clear sense of what you’re actually trying to do when you aim to manifest love.
Do this meditation periodically. It is meant to help you enter into any of your romantic encounters with a sense of equality, strength, and genuine love, which has a tendency to become hindered and distorted by our egos.
Putting your ultimate goal out into the world—even just to acknowledge that you wish it—can itself be a scary proposition if the goal is big enough and crazy enough. We ask ourselves (a la Marianne Williamson and Nelson Mandela), “Who am I to think I can be/do/have this?” This thought and the attendant feelings and associations that come with it are what we first need to tap on.
The degree of your self-acceptance will dictate the quality of your relationship. If you try to manifest a relationship when you’re full of desperation and you have low self-esteem, you may indeed succeed, but the relationship will almost certainly be sub-par. You might drive your partner away, unconsciously cause drama in your relationship, or–more likely–attract a partner who is not good for you.
A key element in our healing and empowerment as women has to do with reconnecting with our “Inner maid”, the teenage girl we carry inside, and creating a new relationship of with her. When we intend to heal and awaken this part of ourselves, we will be able to accompany our daughters, nieces, friends or students with more fluency and joy, aware of not projecting in them what we lacked in this important moment of life.
It doesn’t matter how unattractive you think you are, no one deserves a partner who abuses or disrespects them. Pay attention to the signs of someone who mistreats you and know when to walk away–even if it means being alone.
It’s not just about “loving yourself” on the surface. It’s about having CORE beliefs aligned with the truth of who you are. A beautiful Soul that is a gift to this world. Most times we don’t truly allow ourselves to know this truth, out of fear, traumas, and early conditioning, and so our untruth shows up in our relationships.
It is really easy to focus on all that is wrong with our lives, especially when it comes to our money issues. Our negative feelings are strong, and have a lot of pull behind them..we can get sucked in deep the second we start feeling them. But, you have to realize you have a choice regarding where you put your focus. You get to decide how you feel about your life. You get to decide whether you will keep telling yourself the same story or be willing to craft a new one.
How about people with confidence who radiate a sense of wholeness? You’ve probably met someone before who seemed oddly content to be single if they needed to be, and yet they were never short of prospects.
Gabriel…I have been going for energy healing sessions since years now and have been working on myself…..I must admit that I still have apprehensions on manifesting my soulmate desires and often wallow on self pity despite all the inner work I have been doing…..however, reading this article today has completely opened my heart and mind and given me so much hope and positivity…..you are absolutely right in quoting that our soulmates are within us all along…..I would like to express my heartfelt gratitude to you for writing such an articulate, poignant and powerful article for us…..thank you so much for opening our heart to love and creating our own reality……thank you for telling us that IT IS possible and IT exists for each of us…….much love
The most important thing about manifesting your ideal life is to know what you want. It’s also the hardest part, isn’t it? What DO you want? The true you, not the socially conformed you? What does your heart desire? Where do you want to go? Who do you want to be?
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As Mike says, “The line ‘Or do you think… I simply imagined the end result?’ holds the greatest secret of the miraculous mechanics of manifestation: the entire process happens in exactly the reverse order shown to us by our physical senses!”
The purpose of a relationship is not to fill the holes, but to boost the full being that’s already there. Be what you want more of—if you’re the person you want to be, the relationship will just enhance your life. Be sure to write down exactly what you want in a partner—be specific, but focus less on the details and more on the end goal. When I was in the process of manifesting mine, I wrote down the following key characteristics that I wanted in a life partner (seriously, these are the real words, I kept the document so I could refer to it when I found myself in a relationship to see if this stuff actually works—it does):